You meet someone and think that he could be the one. The key word is think.
You do not know this guy at all and really should proceed with caution, especially if you have small children, particularly daughters.
Although you do not want to live your life being paranoid, you can place yourself, or your children, in a deadly situation if you are not careful.
Here are 5 warning signs that your boyfriend might be bad.
The guy that you just met is professing his love for you very shortly after you first met. It can happen, however, it really might mean that he has pegged you are someone that is vulnerable. He may only want to get into your pants, or he may have other motives.
Advice: Be smart. Don’t jump in to bed with him right away and be suspicious. It might just save your life.
You just met this guy and already he is paying your child lots of attention. You think it’s sweet and are overjoyed to meet someone who is so accepting of your kids.
Advice: Maybe he is a gem, maybe not.
Don’t blindly trust someone without getting to know them. Your new boyfriend should not be allowed to babysit your children right off the bat.
It is your responsibility to take care of them and they have to come first. Be suspicious if your new boyfriend wants to include your children on all of your dates and seems preoccupied with them. He may just love kids or he may be a pedophile.
Look, he might just be really nice; there are plenty of nice guys around. It is possible that he is trying to quickly gain your trust and he is able to “blind” you by buying you and your kids off.
Advice: Don’t accept big ticket items from a new man so quickly.
Also, look inside yourself and see if you are screaming “vulnerable”. Have you recently went through a bad break-up, divorce or lost your job. You new beau may know this and is using it to his advantage.
Keep your distance and, even though it may be tempting, limit gifts until you get to know him
He may have just moved to your city so it’s possible that he does not have a support network, however, if he says you are all he needs, it might be masking something much more sinister.
Advice: Other than not jumping in too quickly, simply pay attention. Does he expect you to be with him daily? Is he trying to cement himself in you and your child’s life? Has he even suggested your children call him “Daddy”.
Slow it down and proceed with caution.
You hardly know this guy and should not be going away with him or moving in with him until you know each other better. Why jump so soon? If it’s real, time will not damage the relationship; rather it will improve it
Advice: As tempting as it may be, don’t jump so quickly. Slow it down!
You may want to consider doing a background check on this person. Remember, they might even be providing you with a false name.
Take your time getting to know someone and be extra cautious if you have children.
The 5 warning signs that your boyfriend might be bad are just that; warning signs. One sign may or may not be not be a cause for concern, however, if you are seeing 2 or more signs, you want to be very careful.
Enlist the assistance of family or close friends, and make sure that one of the people in your trusted circle knows where you are.